What is an intimacy prenup?

An Intimacy Prenup™ is a research-based couples assessment — not a legal document — that helps engaged and newly married couples identify expectations, communication patterns, and relationship values across 11 domains before problems develop. Created by Dr. Marla Reis, PhD, Licensed Psychologist.

How does the Intimacy Prenup work?

Each partner answers 108 questions privately on their own device. When both are done, results are combined into a single shared report showing areas of alignment, areas needing conversation, and specific guidance for each domain.

Who created the Intimacy Prenup?

The Intimacy Prenup™ was created by Dr. Marla Reis, PhD — a Licensed Psychologist with 35 years of clinical experience working with couples, and whose 2001 University of Miami dissertation studied engaged couples and the expectations that predict marital outcomes.

For engaged couples & committed partners

Nearly every couple that eventually struggles
said the same thing at the beginning:
“We communicate about everything.”

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Talking is when words come out. But for it to actually be communication, it has to be productive — it has to take you and your partner somewhere. Most couples spend years doing the first one and calling it the second. Real communication — knowing what you mean, saying it so it lands, and knowing it was understood — is something no one actually teaches. Until now.

Begin the Free Intimacy Preview →

5 free questions · No credit card · Your answers are completely private

Take the Full Assessment · $47 →

🔒 Your privacy is protected. Each partner answers on their own device. Your individual answers are never seen by anyone — not your partner, not Dr. Marla, not anyone — unless you choose to share them. Your results belong to you.

Simple by design. Surprising by nature.

You answer privately, on your own device

108 questions, in your own time, at your own pace. Your individual answers are never seen by anyone — not your partner, not anyone — until you decide to share them.

Your partner does the same

When you’re both done, you enter your couple code. Your results are woven together into a single, shared document that belongs to both of you.

You receive your Intimacy Prenup™

Not a compatibility score. Your real map — the two of you, eleven domains, side by side. Where you’re already aligned. Where you need to talk. Where your strengths already live.

See a sample report →

The Creator

Dr. Marla Reis, PhD

Psychologist · Researcher · 35 years with couples · Learn more →

Dr. Marla Reis is a Licensed Psychologist who has worked with engaged and married couples for thirty-five years. Her doctoral dissertation at the University of Miami studied what engaged couples actually understand — and what they don’t — about the marriages they’re entering.

The pattern she found then, and has seen every year since: couples arrive at the altar using the language of commitment without having had the conversation that makes it mean something. You say “I do” to a version of each other you haven’t fully met yet. The Intimacy Prenup is the conversation that changes that — and the tool she’s always wanted to exist.

Begin Today

Two people.
108 questions.
One honest map.

Each of you answers privately — and when you’re both done, your shared Intimacy Prenup™ is waiting. Not a test of your relationship. Not a verdict. A conversation you’ll be glad you had before the wedding — and a map you’ll come back to after it.

Begin Your Intimacy Prenup™ →

Each partner answers privately · Results revealed together · $47 one-time

The average wedding costs $35,000. This is the $47 investment in the marriage itself.

Gifting this to a couple you love? (Even better than a toaster. Infinitely more useful.)

Gift the Intimacy Prenup →

(The most meaningful investment two people can make in each other.)

Curious about the research
behind what you just read?

Why ~70% of what you and your partner fight about can’t be solved — only understood. What Radical Understanding actually means, and why it changes everything. The science that makes your Intimacy Prenup™ different from every other couples tool.

Go deeper into the framework →

Already Married?

The Intimacy Postnup™
was built for you.

Same research-based foundation. 11 domains. Rewritten for the marriage you’re already living — and the conversations you still haven’t had.

Explore the Intimacy Postnup →

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Already completed the assessment?

Enter your couple code to retrieve your results.

Your couple code was shown on screen and emailed to both partners after sending invitations.

Before You Go

Your conversation
doesn’t have to stop here.

Research, insights, and the conversations you may have been putting off — delivered directly to your inbox.

Want to work with Dr. Marla directly? She works with a small number of couples at a time.

drmarla@integrativetherapysolutions.net →

Nearly every couple that eventually strugglessaid the same thing at the beginning:“We communicate about everything.”